Notice the hostility is only confined to this one particular thread where you people can’t seem to behave, read, comprehend, ask questions, investigate, or behave like a reasonable human being. Funny hey? Not really, here you are to dump more sour shit on this thread, you guys are the problem, look in the mirror!

I respect the paradox of tolerance. I don’t tolerate ignoramuses like you who show up to vandalize threads, create hostilities, troll, act like obnoxious jerks then wither like precious flowers when you get a little pushback. And you people always resort to the pissy little flaccid aggressions.

Don’t mistake me telling you guys to fuck yourself with me being a hostile person, you have earned it. Be a man and take it because you know what I’m saying is true.

A woman is dead, and 36 families ended up homeless. I slept in my car for a week and then my sister’s garage for 2 months due to this. I lost most of the things I own but I’m still happy because I have a new home after all of the struggle, and I get to solder things.

“Good joke, man”

Okay so how do you suggest I say it?

I don’t want to focus on how ridiculous her behavior is, that is going to make her defensive and double down.

I want to encourage her to discover and be who she is with out trying to fit inside some ridiculous imagined box that she has currently decided to shove herself into.

I’m not asking for soldering advice, I do this for a living, these are dog shit Bluetooth modules from china, you’re not listening.

The fact that I have enough skill to actually solder onto these pieces of feces, and actually have a working product is a testament to my skill. I’m not just bloviating, you don’t know what it’s like trying to work with these particular ultra-budget ones until you’ve had them in your hands.

What is with everybody on lemmy, and social media in general, deciding that everybody is an invalid and half wit, possesses no ability, and without asking or investigation decides they need a lecture on some imagined knowledge/skill deficiency. It’s getting really frustrating.

Thanks for your input.

When I was reaching the frustration point my first feedback to her was that it’s important for her to discover herself and live true to herself. And if the diagnosis helps her frame her understanding of herself, gives her a relief, helps explain the way she’s felt, that’s great.

I don’t know how to reinforce that message while also telling her to stop acting like an idiot.

I’m not naive or callous, and I’m highly educated and mental health disorders as I do youth crisis work as just part of my career. I am perceptive enough as well to know that she is embellishing so much and I just need that aspect to tone down a bit in order for me to feel comfortable being around her.

Yeah, they’ve had the full battery of tests, and presenting ASD symptoms for the most part.

I don’t necessarily want to bend them into changing, part of it will be me adapting to their New freedom to live closer to who they are without masking. But they’ve gone bonkers over the top exaggerating and I need to talk to them somehow.

These are just cheap dude. Literally paid 92 cents. The good ones don’t behave this way but I wanted to try the cheap ones. I guess I exploded in frustration without really explaining what half of my beef is… it’s that the damn pads rip off with the force of a mouse fart… because they’re just… I don’t know how it’s even POSSIBLE to make something this cheap and have it still kinda work. Got to handle them like Faberge eggs and there’s like a three second forgiveness window for applying too much heat… Oy hahahahahah

Which of these two, perfectly normal soldering tools do you deem to be the heaviest you’ve seen in your life?

It seems like I need to block you which I’m going to do now.

Because you are the type of idiot that does nothing but make everybody’s life worse.

Consider fucking off.

Because you didn’t read the post, and you’re useless.

Before you lecture me, why don’t you read what I posted, where you can see that I do not want to walk away and I’m asking specifically to discuss how to NOT do that, dunce.

Thanks for the support, but I’m not arguing with them, I’m telling them to basically fuck right the fuck off in the most polite way.

Because honestly, and I’m not trying to sound rude even though it’s going to be blunt, that is the type of 10-year-old mentality that we see from reddit, where every single problem is solved by walking away. A mature person knows that relationships and human beings are complicated, and we must afford each other allowances and lenience.

A mature person does not automatically walk away from a person they have known for a decade, just because that person is experiencing some change in their life and some challenges.

A mature person does not abandon someone when they are going through mental health issues.

A mature person looks how they can act like a friend, and work with the other person, versus taking the view that the minute something becomes annoying or inconvenient, the answer is to walk.

The idea that you would come and just snap off such a reply without taking any chance to explore the situation or offer a possible solution shows how useless and immature it is.

Stop talking to me after this please.

Soldered stuff and secured with cyanoacrylate, cured with a fan and clothes steamer cuz I’m too impatient to wait 15 munutes

E: I don’t know why the goddamn ground pads on these boards is the biggest pain in the ass in the universe and it seems to actively reject solder regardless of what type of flux / solder used. I’m also not too impressed with my right channel lump there but what can a person do at this point, who cares it works and it’s snug

Actually useless comment, grow up.

They do not have the mask so they are free to express more of their true self if they wish. So I would like to encourage that.

I would like to discourage the person from embodying various stereotypes in their worst forms. They don’t have to pretend they have DS, and act like a braying half-wit ignoramus, which is not what DS people are anyways.

I have the 14 items that I need to do a basic soldering job scattered all throughout my apartment. Even though I do 100% of the soldering in one small area, I feel the need to distribute these pieces throughout my place, so I must go on a wild adventure every time. I will also make sure to misplace random critical objects while I am in the middle of a job.

Someone committed suicide in the last building I lived in, the entire place burned down, I lost all of my furniture. But at least I can solder.

Wow this was a great comment and it e:did change my perspective a bit thank you.

It reminds me of my gay friends who came out in the '80s, and they became ridiculous for a few years, until they figured out that they don’t need to play a role.