i’m someone who managed a third space. it became successful.

then I gave up, because it became nothing but people shoving their personal politics down everyone else’s throats and demanding the space ONLY be for ‘people like them’. I straight up quit, because all I could see was people who wanted to turn our third space into a space for them and theirs, and exclude anyone who didn’t look/speak the way they wanted, including myself.

this is the problem with ‘inclusivity’ and all that. there is no such thing. all there are is different versions of exclusivity, and people will get violent and hostile if you try to take their exclusivity away.

because it’s not about social justice, it’s about their own weird egotistical power trip.

‘special shampoo’

is that your code for jackin’ it in the shower?

yeah, my reaction to the headline was ‘what the fuck’.

but then i realize i’m the weirdo who doesn’t do that. some folks can’t be more than 5ft from their phone without having an anxiety attract

yeah i quit a job I had because it was always meetings where nothing got done but people just wanted to socialize and jerk each other off w/ the pretext of ‘productivity’. or go on these rants about totally unrelated nonsense.

my current job has one meeting that’s 45m every two weeks. and maybe once a month it goes to 90m if a major policy change is active. It’s so productive, and nobody at my company needs to inject their weird little ego trips either, it’s actually 100% work focused.

open offices are about control

what did you expect showing up to a 10 year olds birthday party covered in paper mache?

I live in MA. People like this are everywhere here.

They are not straw, they are very real, and they love to go around fucking up everyone else’s good work because they are so self righteous and entitled.

In my own city they wanted to rebuild a park that was falling apart, and the project took 5 years, because insane people living nearby repeatedly sued the city to stop them from fixing/improving this park, and the suite were dismissed again and again because they were baseless, but entitled arrogant people don’t care about anything other than getting their way, and punishing/hurting other people when they can’t. And their ‘talking points’ or ‘concerns’ are always baseless, hysterical, and simple factually wrong.

Good news is they finally started construction on the park last spring, bad news is the costs of rebuilding it are now double what they would have been if they project had proceeded 5 years ago… and this is exactly why everything in the USA pubic works projects costs double or triple what it does in other countries… because so many of our private citizens are deeply emotionally invested in opposing development of any kind whatsoever, even when it’s restoring a park with dying trees and crumbling walking paths.

do you go to city council meetings?

I have. It’s not just property owners. it’s a lot of different people who show up, and most of them are dumb as rocks and spout ignorant nonsense, because what they are really doing is vocalizing their feelings that they don’t like change.

and then when someone who is informed or smart shows up, people shout them down as if they are pushing a conspiracy on them, or concern troll them with ridiculous scenarios or demands.

You can blame the rich all you want, in my life experience in housing policy, everyone is an idiot about it, the difference is the rich have the lawyers to gum up the system, but often poor people will do the same way via an advocacy group.

Being poor or renting doesn’t’ make you a saint, despite what lemmy idealists seem to think.

cool, guess she can live with you forever then.

she’s not a child at 17. the fact you think she is might be why she is so incapable of adult functioning.

tell that to half of my renter friends who scream about rent prices but who also think no new apartments should exist and who are up in arms whenever a new apartment building is proposed in the city.

you don’t have to be own property to be a hypocritical dumbass on housing policy. just entitled enough to think you should have cheap housing costs and NOBODY ELSE ever should…

Don’t mistake intelligence with knowing shit or particular habits.

Most of my exes think I’m an idiot because I don’t setup the dishwasher the same way as they would.

You didn’t know what BPD was until after it was over, if you’re like anyone else who dated someone who was BPD.

abusive people prey on the ignorant and kind folks who can’t ID their behaviors as toxic.

are you serious? you’re blaming your kid for your mistakes?

she’s a kid. kids don’t know what trash is, tell/teach her what the trash is. stop expecting a child to understand what you mean without giving them instruction.

reminds me of every shitty coach I had as a kid. ‘just hit/catch the ball’. and they get pissed off when you made a mistake, and then basically tell you you just suck and should quit.

Then the good coaches would… actually teach you how to hit and catch the ball… and then tell you what you did wrong when you made a mistake… and you’d… get better at playing the game… and you’d go from being crappy to being a lot better…

the word literal now means figuratively for a large chunk of the population.

so you’re fucked no matter what at this point. pretty hard to take things literally when words literally have contradictory meanings.

read their mind.

they feel like your inability to understand their horrible communication is a fault entirely in you and has nothing to do with themselves.

or more accurately, they just want you to emotionally validate them and tell them what they want to hear.

also, even if they did tell you what to do explicitly, and you do it, they will 100% come back at you ‘BUT NOT LIKE THAT’.

because now it’s not about communicating, it’s about abusing/confusing you to feel like they have control over you, to see how how much bullshit they can get away with before you tell them to f off.

Yeah, this is 100% right.

My State is full of people like this. They scream and moan about things not catering to them… and when what they want does cater to them they won’t support it, and they don’t understand that businesses need customers to exist…

they just seem to want business to exist that cater to them… but don’t actually want to ever patronize to such businesses. but the second that business decides to try and make itself more appealing to more customers… it’s EVIL. And if you patronize this business… YOU are evil now too.

And if you try to point this out to them… they just go mental. They don’t understand that businesses have costs, they think the notion of profitability/sustainability is also EVIL.

Same with housing. They protest for cheaper housing. OK, we need to build more housing then. And then when more housing is proposed to be built, they protest it too. The same people most of the time.

Generally here the people who scream the loudest are the most hypocritical. They screech at everyone we need more small independent businesses… but they all shop at Amazon and Target exclusively.

my favorite was the ‘the AI tried to seduce me’ stories.

the reporters who wrote this crap… just come across a dumb as the AI itself, if you don’t buy her into their ‘AI is trying to bang you and thinks you’re really hot’ bullshit…

but lots and lots of folks very much would like an AI to try and bang them.

what about people who make dumb comments on lemmy?

not literally, but plenty of people were talking about how it work destroy and topple governments and usher in a new world order and/or lead to liberate from the oppression of the state and some new utopia. and those were the evangelists trying to sell it to you… just like these AI workers are.

and it works. drama sells. people love it. reason why most popular posts on reddit are all relationship drama.